Posts by thinkers wife

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Some Personal Stuff

by amicus in

i lived with my folks when i became a witness at 18 years of age.

my parents were surprised when i cut off my ponytail.

they were upset when i wouldnt re-enroll in college.

Amicus,
Thank you so much for sharing part of your soul. I know everyone here has different beliefs. But I feel strongly that your parents are with you in some way. They probably don't feel that you neglected them in your search for the "truth". Most parents are very understanding and forgiving of their children. Just as we are of our parents.
The beautiful passage you shared made a lump in my throat. If only all humans would respect others... what a much better world this would be. Tolerance tempered with compassion and mercy are so very important.
TW

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New to Board

by LeeHiker in

jw
friends

hi to everyone,just found this board yesterday.at first i thought.

this was "big rays" board,but i guess not,lol.i've been hanging out .

at h20 for the past 2yrs and learned quite a bit about the wbts,some.

thinkers wife

Hello LeeHiker,
Welcome! Sit back, contribute and enjoy!
TW

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hello

by Latte in

hi

thinkers wife

Thinker = independent thinking
Thinkers Wife = ditto!!
LOL. Sounds like you might be near where I am Latte. It has been about two and half years since I was at the meetings. And yes, I am extremely happy. Found and married a wonderful man along the way!! About time I found some happiness for myself at the ripe old age of forty.
TW

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NON JW ENGAGED TO A JW

by Cj in

hello all!!

i am 22 years old and very much in love with my fiance.we have overcome many obstacles and have many more to overcome but they have all been worth it..my fiance was raised as a jw and i was raised as a catholic.i am non-practising and am considering converting to his beliefs.i have been doing alot of research and,truthfully,i am not in agreement with most of what i have learned.i know that we have to reach some sort of religious agreement before getting married and bringing children into the picture.i am feeling overwhelmed.i love him with all my heart and soul.i am christian and pary to god as opposed to jehovah..to me they are one and the same...his parents don't approve of me due to my upbringing..his father is a "minister".my father doesn't approve of my fiance because we are of different races....does anyone have any encouraging words?suggestions?.

christina {cj.

thinkers wife

Cj,
I'm with mommy on this one. Could it be that you need to sort your feelings out with this other person? Even if you don't need too, it sounds like he does and crying on his shoulder might not be a good idea for him.
I too love my husband deeply and even if an opportunity presented itself, kissing someone else would be out of the question.
I was married before, and the love wasn't there and a similiar issue came up and kissing someone else didn't seem like as big an issue as it does with my current husband. The difference was the level of love we share. Give this very careful thought and attention. Examine all of your feelings and needs and make sure your fiancee is going to fill them. This is of paramount importance. It is what will make your love grow and survive. Be honest with yourself. It is your life and you want it to be happy and content.
TW

Edited by - thinkers wife on 28 January 2001 6:21:46

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NON JW ENGAGED TO A JW

by Cj in

hello all!!

i am 22 years old and very much in love with my fiance.we have overcome many obstacles and have many more to overcome but they have all been worth it..my fiance was raised as a jw and i was raised as a catholic.i am non-practising and am considering converting to his beliefs.i have been doing alot of research and,truthfully,i am not in agreement with most of what i have learned.i know that we have to reach some sort of religious agreement before getting married and bringing children into the picture.i am feeling overwhelmed.i love him with all my heart and soul.i am christian and pary to god as opposed to jehovah..to me they are one and the same...his parents don't approve of me due to my upbringing..his father is a "minister".my father doesn't approve of my fiance because we are of different races....does anyone have any encouraging words?suggestions?.

christina {cj.

thinkers wife

Cj,
Welcome! You are really in a tough spot. My advice would be not to convert unless you are totally convinced for yourself that it is the right thing for you. You will come to realize that there are many strings attached to being a JW. You need to know what these strings are before you commit to it.
One thing to consider is how strong is your fiancee in the religion.
Also has he asked you to convert? Because IMHO, if we really love someone, we don't ask or even want them to change. This is very important in a long term relationship. Acceptance of each other as we really are.
Thinkers Wife

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Looking for a brother

by fleurette in

hi, i"m 25 years and i'm looking for a nice brother i'm haitian .

and i like to go out i live in florida ft.lauderdale i'm looking.

for a serious relationship.

thinkers wife

Welcome Fleurette!! Hope you find what you are looking for. Love your name.
Thinkers Wife

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Non-JW Friends...

by LDH in

jw
friends

when you were active, or if you still are, did you all maintain non-jw friendships?.

i've always kept some close friends who weren't jws.

but reading a .

thinkers wife

Eyes,
I don't think your KH was an isolated example. I experienced the same thing for many years. My girlfriend and I used to quote an OMC song line "if you are in you're in if your out your not".
It is really hurtful. When I finally moved seventeen years later the people at the KH were really nice. But it was too little too late.
TW

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I am a non-witness in love with one. help please

by jarrod in

jw
friends

i am a man who is in love with a witness.

we have been in a relationship for 3 years full of guilt and fear and now it seems like it may be the end.

is it possible or is there a way for me to have my own belief and marry a jw?

thinkers wife

Jarrod,
I feel so badly for you and your girlfriend. Please pay close attention to what everyone has said they are accurate. And weigh all these things very carefully before comitting to anything long term.
I am interested to your girlfriends reaction to the discussion last night?
TW

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Heresy of the Month

by thinker in

heresy of the month (from a website).

don't you hate it when someone you know comes up with some new thing that you have never heard about?

you sit there in apparent ignorance as they pontificate about the proofs and merits of some idea so far beyond common knowledge that it can only be revealed by people of exceptional enlightenment such as they.